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Conversations In Our Heads!


(CIOH) – (see-oh) and a Chat with GPT:

As an AI language model, I do not have personal experiences, thoughts, or feelings.

However, humans can observe the conversations in their heads for personal development. This practice is known as mindfulness or introspection. By paying attention to thoughts and emotions, individuals can identify negative self-talk, limiting beliefs, and unhelpful thought processes.

Awareness allows us to challenge and reframe these thoughts, promoting positive self-talk and improving mental well-being and personal growth.

Psychologically, internal monologues or self-talk include planning, problem-solving, analyzing, judging, evaluating, criticizing, and remembering events. These conversations influence how we perceive and respond to the world.

Potential benefits of being aware of internal dialogue include:

  1. Improved Self-Awareness: Identifying negative beliefs helps us achieve our full potential.
  2. Reduced Stress and Anxiety: Challenging negative thoughts reduces stress and reframes situations positively.
  3. Improved Relationships: Understanding our thought processes improves communication and empathy.
  4. Increased Resilience: Building resilience by challenging negative self-talk and focusing on strengths.
  5. Enhanced Performance: Replacing self-defeating beliefs with empowering ones boosts performance.

End ChatGPT

@ LeadU.com/assessment data provides key subject-object* information and language?

Earlier, I mentioned subject-object* with and without a conscious relationship.

Example of CIOH Leaderwork
Being subject to my extraversion continuously and unconsciously means expressing thoughts aloud — it’s normal for me, unlike introversion.

Perspective Taking & CIOH
Understanding this can help me manage my extraversion by choosing what to express based on Culture, Conditions, and Requirements (CCR) rather than my trait.

The time it takes to recognize the linkages in my internal conversations correlates with my growth in self-awareness. The quicker I recognize the unconscious gap in subject-object, the easier I can choose different behaviors consciously.

Identifying subject-object relationships, like recognizing when I talk too much due to my extraversion, allows me to use RightACTION to become aware and regulate my behavior according to CCR.

Using DISS & CIOH Productively
Conversations In Our Heads is perfect for practicing The DISS (Dynamic Inquiry System Skills) with ourselves and others. Understanding our relationship with extraversion and other traits can enhance our WELLTH.

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* Robert Kegan’s theory on subject-object relations is a key part of his developmental psychology. Kegan proposes that personal growth involves the transition from seeing ourselves as “subjects” to seeing those same aspects as “objects.”

Initially, parts of our identity and way of thinking are so ingrained that we can’t perceive them separately; they dominate our worldview. For example, a child may not distinguish between themselves and their feelings; they *are* their feelings (subject).

As individuals develop, they start to see these aspects from an outside perspective (object). They no longer just act based on immediate emotions; they can observe, analyze, and manage them.

This shift allows for increasingly complex ways of understanding oneself and the world, leading to greater psychological maturity. Each developmental stage involves making what was once subjective experience into an object of reflection. Kegan outlines several stages where this transformation happens, each stage representing a more advanced form of thinking and relating to the world. Subscribe @ leadu.com/news

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