In the fourth decade of my professional coaching career, I’ve focused my work more in view of self-inquiry and the conversations occurring with our self-talk. This ‘examination’ tends to occur on an ongoing basis with our self and our pretend self — our ego position as a perspective rather than perception. *
It’s interesting that Carl Jung indicated that these self-inquiry led conversations should be a part of our everyday schedule!
I’ve named this process and reference it as: CIOH: Conversations In Our Heads.
While it might not seem like it in the short run, using self-inquiry with OPTIMULL: OPPOR+unity, Position-pCc, Tension, Importance, Motivation, Urgency, Leverage, and Low-Hanging Fruit will objectify was has you… as Jung noted in his idea of learning about what we don’t know we know about our ‘psychology’.
A caveat seems important.
I’ve placed directional complexity and capability broadly; in task or performance of task; growth or development (opportunity, position, and tension) in categories such as Vertical, Oblique, Lateral, and Time based with AGE into an acronym called VOLTAGE in order to give language needed for self-inquiry.
DevGPS coordinates?
We use VOLTAGE in mapping developmental position describing and relating these directions and capabilities to an “energy” metaphor where there is pCc: potential, CAPACITY, capability (to human?).
This ‘mapping’ provides us with an understanding of “energy & information” at play in any kind of complex development where we can identify tasks in a role and whether or not a person is at a position to satisfy those requirements.
VOLTAGE is… as VOLTAGE does?
VOLTAGE: Vertical, Oblique, Lateral, Time, and AGE all seem to be figurative elements for — at least — simplifying what is a very complex process (at certain points) in our journey of learning, growth, and development using self-other inquiry to help us understand cognition.
Cognition differences are diverse!
With that being said, it’s obvious to me — like physical characteristics such as height, hair color, running speed, and many inborn traits like development in self-knowledge and an emerging sense of self-awareness is also different in each of us.
Diversity promotes conflict?
This idea is clearly central to both observing and hearing development while listening for the artifacts of pCc: potential, CAPACITY, and capability, as it is noticed in the quality (density) and quantity (frequency) of the Problem Solving Processes we use to describe a Problem Solving Approach (PSA) and/or a Problem Solving System (PSS).
Conversations In Our Heads (CIOH) as a part of self-inquiry.
Self-Inquiry could be labeled as this developmental conversation or interaction — possibly both depending on your sense of both — that occurs throughout our lifetime unless impaired by illness or trauma of sorts.
Problems of Our Personalities.
For me, the bottom-line is noticing this conversation in and over time and the type of self-inquiry occurring. Then, connecting it with self-knowledge to encourage self-awareness of our own bias, purpose, and problems of our personalities as both Jung and James noted in their work.
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Example:
People love my contributions?
[Sometimes!? Once in awhile?]
This inappropriate use of extraversion happens when an inborn need for ‘unexamined and usually uninvited extraversion’ emerges out of inborn ‘energy & information’ to express and think out loud — not bad, not good, just is.
Too much is too much.
Without objective self-knowledge coupled to self/other awareness (social cues), I’m all-too-happy to extravert my thinking and feeling!
Good for me? good for you?
We don’t want to deny a need for extraversion. Yet extraverts can get that need met outside of circumstances where it’s not appropriate or requested(!).
Self-inquiry works?
All of which can be done with self-inquiry. Self-Inquiry has leverage with what we listen-hear-notice-observe with perspective* geared to this example of too much mismatched extraversion, or maybe I talk too much at the wrong times!
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Without self-inquiry and CIOH, lack of awareness can get ugly.
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*Perception and Perspective are not the same thing which should be noted.
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Mike R. Jay is a developmentalist utilizing consulting, coaching, mentoring, and trusted advice emergent from dynamic inquiry as a means to cue, scaffold, support, lift, and protect; offering inspiration to aspiring leaders who are interested in humaning where being, doing, having, becoming, contributing, protecting, and letting go help people have generative lives.